Here and Back again

So this past weekend I went out to NY with the Crew (D.Diaspora) for some heavyduty dance classes and Capoeria training with our mestre. On the drive back to Oberlin, I had been doing some thiniking about life and the happenings. Let me first say that ever time I come back from NY...I start to care for Oberlin a little bit. Something I'm working on but still. (I always feel different after trips like this when I'm back in the NY/NJ area) Amyways...I'd been thinking (always a bad sign) and I wonder if everyone including myself have the tendency to blur what they hear into what they want to. I've been noticing alot that I may be doing that...like I was giving a sign that said 'Hey...this is what was for reals said' and I just chose to close my eyes. After having been in the same situation more than once, I start to wonder if it's me that puts out the 'confused' sign. I'm not just talking about relationships, but I'm talking about what it really means to listen and connect with someone. Like when was the last time you for real listened to what someone was saying- and not counter it with something that happened to you? Or when was the last time you really just sat down and thought with yourself. Not about yourself but with yourself- as in you started to understand what 'you' in a situation do/did and you work it out for yourself. Like how can you better yourself and everything around you.